The Pakistani Spectator

Marriage a very major decision in life, in our society its taken with most casual of manners. Parents 80% of the time impose their decisions on kids especially Girls and those boys and Girls who claim to have a so called love marriage, they seemed to struggle to carry on their relation cause of the non-acceptance by both families.

To cut short, two people remain living together through out their life raising kids helping their education but deep down in heart not happy with each other but relation remains intact with compromise either by one or both husband and wife.

The dilemma starts where both sides become stubborn, non accommodating, selfish and not willing to accept realities in life. Every day a new brawl is staged in the house, things are said to each other in presence of kids resulting in total personality destruction of Kids. Both want kids to grow up and perform in practical life but kids of such broken homes are suffering from loneliness, hopelessness, anxiety, fear of the unknown and above all to be confident enough to face the world which shatters down their personality.

This restarts the same cycle when such kids get married. We have often seen, the kids who would have been remarkably talented in the normal circumstances, under perform cause of the un due stress at home. There is no organization who comes forward to provide counseling to such kids cause in our society no body bothers whats happening next door.

Apparently looking normal, these kids are patients of continues stress and lack of ability to focus and concentrate. An un due urge to avenge the society is a built in feature in them and we see strong emotional reaction from them in a situation where others kids would have tackled similar situation calmly.

If parents cant get along with each other, its not kids fault, they have every right to live a worry free, enjoyable, worth remembering child hood. Such parent’s should decide whether they can handle kids with their differences or not before even thinking on the lines of having kids. Girls should not say an un-wanted yes at the time of marriage under peer pressure and later one hating the person she had to spend life with.

Last three years divorce figures have increased significantly which is alarming and most of the cases its the kids who have to struggle. They will keep on struggling till parents decide to go for compromises, tolerating each other for the sake of kids as a lot of questions are to be answered before Almighty who has given us the roles and responsibility as Parents. I have seen strange loneliness in eyes of such kids which gives me heart ache, innocent and beautiful children who think twice to laugh or to weep, who try to hide from people and who always are introverts.

This article is not to put blame on any one, its a “do the right thing request” to all such parents who take the child hood smiles away from the kids innocent faces let them live a stranger’s life in their very own houses.